There are those who contend that fingering is useless. I couldn’t disagree more. But then again, satisfying fingering requires the work of a true vagician, and I’ve been fortunate enough to experience that. I am here to tell you how it can be done, and done well.
First off, relax! (Because that’s SO easy to do!) No, really! You gotta relax. And I mean relax everything. That includes your vagina, your abdomen, and your butt muscles. Settle in, get comfortable, and prepare for the finger ride of your life!
As for your partner, have her or him start off with clean hands and manicured fingernails (no one wants to get snagged in there by a jagged hangnail). Partner should be nice and relaxed also. And patient. Fingering isn’t something that should be rushed.
When you’re ready to get started, foreplay can help you to relax and become aroused. That can include kissing, petting, or even masturbation. Some people enjoy watching their partner masturbate. Actually, I recommend some erotic petting take place prior to commencement of fingering. Petting serves many purposes, including warming up the recipient, and helps to avoid the jarring sensation of premature entry into the vagina. Plus, the more aroused you are, the wetter you’re likely to be, which will help provide natural lubrication, making that entry smoother and more pleasureable.
Once you’re nice and relaxed and aroused, you’re ready to be fingered. You can communicate this to Partner in words, or by simply guiding her or his fingers into your vagina. I recommend you start with one and then go from there, working up to however many fingers are pleasureable to you. You can even finger yourself via those fingers (hold Partner’s hand, pushing fingers in and out of you), which would work wonders for setting the most pleasureable pace for you, and showing Partner how you like it. Keep in mind that there is an advantage to vagino-digital interaction, and you can maximize your pleasure potential with this information: fingers are not as stationary as, say a penis, or a dildo, and their ability to move interchangeably give them a much better chance of stimulating your G spot, and enhancing your pleasure.
This brings me to the G spot. If you need instructions on how to find it, read this helpful article. For those of you who have been under a rock, or learned about sex by watching porn, allow me to enlighten you on the G spot. It can provide a stronger orgasm than even clitoral stimulation. If you’ve neglected it, its about time you become acquainted with it. At least if you want better orgasms and more satisfying sex. But it can be tricky. Because the G spot is located on the anterior wall of the vagina, it can be very difficult, if not impossible, to stimulate with penile insertion alone. This is where fingering can be very helpful, enabling the toggler to stimulate exactly the right spot, bringing the fingeree to orgasm.
And there are many different techniques that can be used for this. My good friend @MattyVBoston recommends this: “Put 👆in like an “!”; once in; make a “?” and gesture to “come here”; all whilst 👄 and 👅 flicking the 🌹 like a pig at a trough”. From personal experience, I can tell you that the “come here” gesture is a good one to use, and in fact it can be very effective in stimulating the G spot, potentially bringing the togglee to orgasm. And not to mention squirting, which is a real thing, and is not pee. But I’ll tackle that topic in a later article.
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